A lot of people look at divorce as a failure. I really look at my relationship with Chad as 14 years of success. I will carry him in my heart forever. Hes a part of me. Friends of mine and I talk about this. Does someone come into your life for a certain time, and then you are supposed to go your separate ways? Theres a part of me that thinks thats true. There are friendships that we grow out of. But I believe in the long haul. I believe in having a monogamous relationship.