Couples today are struggling with something new to build relationships based on genuine feelings of equality. What if you want physical intimacy more often than your mate? Or vice versa? Too often the deprived partner will blame the other. Dont make this mistake. By calling your beloved selfish, cold, or frigid, you will only make things worse. Pretending that no problem exists also will hurt your relationship. It is much more helpful to recognize your feelings and express yourself constructively.