Cultivating the spirit of acceptance involves overcoming selfish expectations and demands. We expect certain things from our parents, spouse, children and friends. When your expectations are not met, frustration and unhappiness follow. Fathers want their sons to become doctors or engineers; mothers expect their daughters to get married and settle down; when the children wish to pursue their own dreams and aspirations, the poor parents get unhappy. If they learn to accept, not expect, they will be free of their misery.