Developing positive self-appraisals begins with paying attention to our thoughts, which can be difficult to do because its hard to stop a train of thought thats already barreling down the tracks. This is where cognitive discipline comes in. As we listen to our inner dialogue, its important to separate the words, phrases and mantras that are helpful from those that are damaging and could derail us. When we catch t self-defeating appraisals, we have to hold them in our minds and reframe them. When you find that youre beating yourself up, stop in the moment and start down a new path, one where you begin to promote yourself and all the great things youve done. When you refresh your memory about your accomplishments, you start to feel like youre prepared to face whatever comes your way.