In relationship clear message involves a respectful but direct expression of your wants and needs. Take some time to identify what you really want before talking to your partner. Work on being able to describe your request in clear, observable terms. For example, you might say, I would like you to hold my hand more often rather than the vague, I wish you were more affectionate. Discuss One Thing at a Time. It can be tempting to list your concerns or grievances, but doing so will likely prolong an argument. Do your best to keep the focus on resolving one concern at a time. There should honesty and trust in relationship. One should promise each other that they will be transparent to each other. Compromise, give & take, love & understanding are essence of Relationship.