Strive to live life of choice not by chance. If there is setback make necessary change, not an excuse. Motivation & not manipulation should be mantra to make life vibrant & in process be useful not to be used for interest of others.Have self esteem not self pity. Self pity is most destructive & self punishable emotion.Self pity gets you no where. It makes victim of being away from reality.One must have courage to accept oneself with pride & strive to present best of himself. The goal is not to live for ever, the goal is to create something which lives for ever.