When you are anger first and foremost, you must realize that there is nothing positive in being angry. But letting anger out or venting it just feeds anger more as you are focused on it. Realize you are angry and know there is nothing positive by being angry. Recognize it as a Sensation. Often it is a sensation we feel when we think we are right and we have been wronged, or for a myriad of other reasons. When you realize that it is a sensation then you know there is something you can do about it. Its not something uncontrollable. If you feel cold, you look for something to keep you warm. When you feel anger, you look for patience to keep you from feeling angry. This is an important step in steps to anger management.