You are ultimately the sole creator of your own feelings. When negative thoughts arise based on past experiences or future worries, as they sometimes will, realize that these are simply issues your mind (not you) is working through. Pause, be present and pay close attention. Think about these thoughts and emotions consciously, almost as if you were a bystander looking in. Separate yourself from your minds thinking. Perhaps after you study your thoughts and emotions you will think to yourself, Wow, am I really still working through that? And guess what? Over time, your negative feelings and emotions will lessen and genuine awareness, love and acceptance will grow in their place. You will begin to realize that your mind is just an instrument, and you are in control of your mind, not the other way around. By not judging your thoughts or blaming them on anyone else, and merely watching them, there will be a big shift within you your sense of self worth. Its not like you won