Aesthetics lies in the eyes of the beholder but universally agreed aesthetics is essential, especially for a work of art to be accepted. As Barnett Newman said, aesthetics is for the artist like ornithology is for the birds. But there are artists who have a different perspective on aesthetics. Sophia loran once said, beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.
This concept of aesthetics drives home the point that aesthetics is short lived and only external. Where only aesthetics becomes prominent, ethics are not followed. Anything considered to have an aesthetic value is not the effort of that particular person or thing or so to say, aesthetics just happen! Your friends and others may have a different opinion on aesthetics and here are some quotes that give a mixed point of view regarding aesthetics.