Never be defensive. Being defensive will make you succumbing in demanding situation. Being defensive is a sign that you're in fight or flight mode, and that's not a place where you can accomplish anything constructive. Defensiveness sends terrible signals. When you indulge in it, youre likely to be seen as insecure, closed-minded and overly emotional. None of these labels is going to help you be successful. Whenever you feel down because of the weight of your emotions, remember to think of the relieving solutions to ease these feelings. What are the things that you enjoy doing? Let your heart find comfort by surrounding in positive vibrations.Positive vibrations are self healing and it leads you to place of getting yourself better.