Sometimes people may confuse love with the relationships that they are in at the time. Being with someone through substantial ups and downs makes people feel obligated to stay with a person even after stints of being abused, cheated on, and mistreated. Even though a person being abused emotionally or physically or a person who may have suffered a loss is probably the best candidate for a fresh dose of love they are usually the ones who resist it the most.

Not only are we resistant to change naturally as people, but we are inherently more resistant to change when it involves someone we love, or someone that we think we love. It is hard because we continue with relationships physically and mentally thinking that that someone or situation will change, and that the person that we originally loved for a good reason will return. In all actuality, for the most part we are better off giving someone else our love who will yield a return of equal or greater love, and make us feel as we should have been feeling all along.