If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. -Daniel Goleman
If we choose to wallow in self-pity, our lives will remain stationary. One thing about us as humans is that we are made with emotions. Some get confused about what emotions are really for, and think that they should let their emotional feelings determine what type of life that they will have. Instead of letting your emotions rule you, you have to be willing to let your emotions show you what they need to show you in order to make changes, instead of making you change.