I'm just going to be straight up, I know it hurts to lose people, and I know it hurts to be talked about, but why bother ? your not perfect and they're not either. Sometimes we think that its the cruel words of others that hurt, but really its the thought that those words spark in our heads. Your not hurting because they said something bad about you, your hurting because its made you think bad of yourself. Words do hurt, I know, but it doesn't hurt as much as the thought of insecurity it places within your mindset. So try to stop being hard on yourself, and if your saying your not, then let me ask you, why is it easier to say to others their beautiful, but harder to make yourself think the same way, why ? Because regardless of all those who judge you in life, the hardest judge you'll ever come across, is yourself.