Learn to stop comparing your own abilities, successes, and failures to that of other people. Create standards for yourself based on where you want to be in life, not where you think you should be according to others. The first step towards being happy with yourself is to stop using other people as a measure or standard of your own happiness. Having inspirations or positive influences is great, but not if theyre going to make you feel bad about yourself. Learn how to communicate with yourself, how to identify your wants and feelings, and be comfortable by yourself before you try to force yourself out into the open.